Monthly Archives: August 2012

Saying Goodbye to a Close Friend

Around 5:30pm yesterday August 7th, I lost a dear friend of fifteen years. He was hospitalized for several months due to a severe condition which I won’t go into detail here. Day after day we all heard of his condition going up and down like a roller coaster, and never being sure what would happen. We all knew it was a possibility that he could lose the fight, but it never really seemed like a reality.

We all made a couple trips to see him, and got to speak with him quite a bit on the first visit. We laughed and reminisced about old times, and it was clear that we really brightened his spirits by spending time with him.

The last time I saw him was this past Saturday when my girlfriend and I said our goodbyes. Seeing him lay there in a hospital bed and having to speak to him for the last time was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. He wasn’t able to speak or move in any way, but I like to think he still heard what everyone had to say to him in his final moments.

Im writing this here because I wanted to share his favorite song of mine called “Instinctive” which I wrote back in 2005. He frequently expressed how much he liked the song which apparently had been constantly repeating on his iPod at the time. He was also very inspirational towards my attitude on where Autumns Eyes was headed in the future. He always told me there was something about my music that wasn’t characteristic of your typical metal band. Something in the sound that could apply to any genre or listener, no matter what their taste.

At the time I was a bit dismayed at the fact Id be limited by having the heavy metal tag on my music, but he was the one who inspired me, assuring there were other people out there who would listen to this besides heavy metal fans. He wasn’t the biggest fan of heavy music by any means either, but after he opened up to some of my songs he then started opening up to other bands in the genre.

Death is an unfortunate event that everyone must face at some point in their existence. Its almost like a form of cleansing, as it reveals truths and feelings that were never mentioned in the years prior. It exposes exactly what that person meant to you, and how important they are in this life.

Our friend is finally at peace from the nightmare he had to endure for so long. His body may be gone, but his memory will outlive all of us. We will continue to keep his spirit alive and never forget how much he meant to all of us. Moments like this are never easy to cope with, and hardly seem fair by any means. However, it is a part of life that we are forced to endure even if it doesn’t make any sense.

Im going to miss my friend, and I hope he knows just how much he meant to all of us over the years. Rest in peace, Chris.

Why Metal Has More Divas Than Pop Music

When you think about the word diva, you immediately think of artists like Mariah Carey or Beyonce. Typically a female artist who is known for having an attitude if things don’t go their way, and who will be the first to admit they deserve nothing but the utmost respect. However, most people are unaware that the heavy metal realm actually hosts more diva behavior than any other genre. How is this possible, you ask? Well lets break it down into some key points that show just how dramatic some of these metal heads can be!

Dress For Success

One of they key elements to a metal head is their wardrobe. Many other cultures are open to interpretation of any unique style, this is not the case with metal fashion. Typically you are limited to black clothing, and must have an extensive collection of band t-shirts. The band t-shirt isn’t taken lightly either, its some what a show of dominance over each other in public. Much thought goes into the selection of a band shirt and when to wear it. Your entry level metal head will pull a rookie mistake by showing up with say a basic Metallica shirt, and will always be upstaged by the senior metal head wearing something on the level of Diamond Head.

Hair Care

Hair plays a huge part in the fashion of this culture as well, and is one of the first giveaways at your level of devotion to the genre. Typically your intense metal devotee will possess hair past their shoulders. There are other variations of the metal head haircut, including but not limited to versions like the short spiky look, and even the shaved head. You may think they just leave their hair as is once they wake up, but a lot more thought and care goes into this element. The front hairs entering the facial region are most important, and must be strategically placed. You might notice one of them constantly playing with this area while in conversation, and occasionally you can witness them looking for the nearest reflection where they can make a crucial adjustment.


Probably the most important element to a metal heads wardrobe are the accessories. This is also a very carefully planned element which gives people a better understanding of what brand of metal the person is reflecting. Your black metal fans will typically dawn some kind of wrist cuffs or even neck chokers, both dawning spikes of some sort. While other metal heads might choose to stick with a necklace, chain wallet, or even in some cases a belt buckle.

There are even some metal heads who put a large amount of time into wearing makeup to enhance their appearance. We have all seen black metal musicians do it, and in some cases the fans will imitate this by putting on the corpse paint themselves. Goth metal heads who embrace the more dramatic side of the genre have also been known to feature heavy eye makeup and even lipstick in some cases.

Stubborn As a Mule

If you’ve ever gotten into an argument with a metal head you know exactly what Im talking about. You will never get them to admit they are wrong, and chances are they will always hate your favorite band. Even though they are the easiest people on the planet to make angry, you must be ready to hear a long and over detailed explanation on why they are right and you are wrong. One thing they absolutely loathe more than anything is having their flaws pointed out, in which case they will most likely shift blame on you for addressing such an issue.

Bitching and Moaning

In addition to being some of the most stubborn people on the planet, they are also notorious for complaining more than anyone. Many of them spend their time voicing to the world why everything is wrong, and how their ideas would fix everything. They also hate being introduced to new things such as movies or bands they have never heard of. You’d have better luck convincing an atheist that god exists than you would trying to convince a metal head that a new band is just as enjoyable as their old favorites. Some of them complain so much they even take it to a more public level by writing long winded articles on their own website.

Ego Maniacs

Did you know that heavy metal is one of the most pirated genres in the music industry? This is because many of the more extreme ego ridden metal heads feel they are some how entitled to free music, and don’t need to pay for it like everyone else. You can also find examples of ego mania within lots of metal bands out there today. What most of them lack for in song writing ability, they easily make up for with blast beats and simply ripping off other bands who are more successful. There are even metal heads with such huge egos, they refuse to work with other musicians and prefer the spotlight only shine on them by starting their own solo project.

Final Thoughts

They spend so much time trying to make themselves look scary, mean, tough, and evil, but the harder they try the more they come off as lovable little pets that you want to collect like Pokemon. For example, male metal heads are the most deceiving of all and their girlfriends will be the first to identify this. When the lights are out and nobody else is around, the tough guy exterior is replaced by silly voices and a strong desire to watch female cartoons like My Little Pony.

So the next time you pass by a metal head and think they are simple folk who don’t have a care in the world, remind yourself that there is a lot of time and effort put into maintaining such vanity. They are a very sensitive people with morals and values all their own that they don’t wish to share with you unless provoked even in the slightest sense.

By now you should have picked up on the final and most important qualities of a metal head, and that is their extreme sense of sarcasm partnered with their brash ability to speak whatever is on their mind. Even if it means trashing their own kind and making fun of themselves.